When I first started blogging, I didn’t realize the internet was rather dominated by introverts. I’ve always been an extrovert. I love meeting new people, chatting with strangers, and going to parties.
But I also love hiding in my bed reading. Spending time away writing. And stalking other people’s blogs.
And the more I stalked, the more I realized, alot of bookworms are introverts!?!?!? how was this news to me? IDK, I was just really surprised.
Is it harder to be an extrovert and run an online presence? Or is being online harder for introverts? Since I’m not an introvert – I’m 89% extroverted according to the personality test – I can’t answer all the questions about this topic.
So, drop your answers below! I definitely want to hear what you think!
I haven’t yet decided if being an extrovert is harder online. But as always, I have thoughts. Lots of thoughts.
Harder to separate the “real you” from online you.
I see introverts post this statement ALL THE TIME. I’m different in real life. I’m not as funny, or outgoing, or chatty.
But I have never said that? I read my blog posts to my roommates, talk about my blog ideas with my friends, and ask my teachers if they’ve ever read my blog. (Actually only one teacher? We’re friends)
My blog and I are pretty much the same person. I don’t talk differently, or bring out another personality. I’m the same.
Is this good or bad? Maybe that’s the wrong question.
For a while, it never bothered me. However, as I’ve thought about it, I kind of wish I could be different. Because everyone, absolutely anyone, can read my blog. And just from reading my writing, know ALOT about my personality. My thinking. What I’m really like.
Unless I just delete the blog, I can’t hide it. And even if I deleted the blog, is it really gone? Looking at you, NSA.
I’m kind of jealous of introverts who hide behind this amazing different personality on their blogs. They can be themselves with the people they really know & love, and another public person with the rest of the world.
I guess, I feel like my extroversion has ruined my chance of actually privacy?
Needing to Spend Time with Actual People
Extroverts gain energy by spending time with people. Hanging out with crowds makes me so happy. I’m so excited to be around a crowd, I’m bursting with energy.
Blogging is draining. I feel restless after an hour of writing, reading, and navigating the virtual world.
I have to throw my computer down (not literally) and run around with people.
Do introverts have to do this? (I think not but that’s a wild guess) This people time takes actual time. Blogging is already lot of time and then I also need my people quota* for the day. More time away from sleep and homework.
Also, doing homework or blogging around other people is nearly impossible. Because I’m so wound up, and want to chat with everyone, it’s extremely hard to focus on homework.
It’s a big struggle to balance social time with blogging time. And get all my other stuff done
*wow, I sound weird. Let’s go to dinner! I need you to eat with me so I can catch up on my people quota.
Being Way Too Friendly Online
I bring my extroverted personality online in full force. I comment very long comments, send long emails, and message lots of people.
^Me, blog hopping around^
And I can be too personal? Without even realizing it??? (The answer is a very emphatic yes, btw)
When I find out a blogger lives kind of close to me, or that we have something in common, I’m ecstatic. I *might* ask too many questions. Maybe I sound stalkerish?
I’m just so excited we have something in common! And we can chat about it! maybe meet in real life?
Um, no. You should not meet random online people in real life. Or tell them your address. Or be so incredibly friendly.
Do other bloggers struggle balancing friendliness with stalker vibes? Or just my extroverted self?
Being too opinionated & too public. AKA – controversial
Ok, I have lots of opinions *shocker* Probably not, you guys know me too well. 😂
True Story: In my freshman year, I might* have yelled at a guy over a class discussion. Don’t diss women joining the military by talking about Mulan, ok? Or bash Joan of Arc as a myth! #donttouchmyhero
And the worst part… my prof intentionally had us discuss something controversial to learn how to handle touchy subjects.
Yep, everyone did learn something. The redhead is pretty vocal. Also, don’t stop her from joining the marines.**
Now, let’s talk about my vocal opinions on the web. I can be loud, writing FB posts, tweeting what I think about the world. And since last January, there’s been alot of stuff going wrong. Just saying.
But, most of the people on my FB are real life friends. People I may choose not to talk to about politics. Because I know we’ll both end up with a headache. (I’m super smart, haha)
Being online is great, but if you’re super extroverted in real life, there are lots of people who *might* know you in person. And might check up on your online presence. That’s a ton of pressure. Pressure I don’t really want to deal with. Homework is enough drama, ok?
Since last November, I’ve been working out how to separate the two. Most of my real life friends follow me on FB, so I’ve stopped posting much on there. I also don’t read political posts. Because I don’t, really don’t, want to argue or be perpetually upset.
I will use this gif every chance I get. Because, why not?
I want to be friends with people, just not use social media as our means of friendship. Let’s get together for coffee. Go on a walk. Know each other outside FB.
Now, I’m still kind of political on Twitter. But most of the people I interact with on twitter don’t know me. They’re not going to see me in class or at Walmart. We’re all good. 😊
Also, politics and Instagram should never, ever meet. Just no. (Except for insta stories. I might post a rant or two on there once in a blue moon)
*We were sitting in our campus dining hall, and I yelled loud enough that half the breakfast people heard me. I was also practically standing on my chair. I’m short, ok? 😂
**I will never join the marines, btw. But don’t tell me I can’t, ok?
You may have noticed this is my very first “discussion post” so I’m not really sure how to wrap all these crazy thoughts up!
Since I started thinking about this idea, how incredibly extroverted I am, even online, it makes me wonder.
How do introverts handle the online world? After writing this post, I’m very curious.
If you’re an introvert, I’d love to hear how you approach blogging and interacting! Do we have similar struggles, or do I sound like a crazy extrovert? Which, I pretty much am, so no worries if you’re questioning my sanity.
First, a completely unrelated question – Did I do this discussion post thing right? Should I do more discussion posts? Do you write discussion posts?
Now, introverts – please share all your thoughts! How different are we? How does your personality affect your blogging style?